We have a 2 1/2 yr old foster son. He is great usually but when family or company comes over he just becomes wild! He jumps on the furniture, runs thru house,etc. I tell him he needs to settle down, walk not run, play with a specific toy, watch a video, or sit and talk with us, but two seconds later he is doing it all over again. Any suggestions for other veteran toddler parents?? Thanks!How to control a 2 1/2 yr old boy when he becomes wild because company is visiting!?
This one is very difficult. Our second son was the baby from hell. We had to make up our mind that his welfare came first, and that sometimes means doing without other things. Believe me when I tell you it works. He became the best behaved son after a few more years.
We usually would choose who stays with the visitors, and who goes with the child. A couple of times, we asked the visitors to please take a rain check, and return later. One parent would go with sonny into another room, and just sit quietly and talk about behaviour that is acceptable and not. We never used the word bad with him. We never spanked him, either.
The main point here is, does the child's welfare come first, or are you more interested in placating the visitors? Just accept that the child will take longer than you expected to learn proper behavior.How to control a 2 1/2 yr old boy when he becomes wild because company is visiting!?
HI,,, ok,, you may not agree with this,, but grab him by the arm,,, give him look that would scare your worst nightmare,, and tell him to STOP !!!! May sure he knows you mean business ,, or other wise,,he will not.... and you know he is going to try you.....
Tear his backside up...... I bet you he will not do it anymore.....
good luck,,,,,
I have the same problem with my child, sometimes he makes me wonder if he has ADD the hyperactive part of it, soon he will see his doctor to find out what the problem is. I tend to yell at my son alot and nothing works not even talking, i know your stressed out cause i know i am and i have a 3 month old to take care of too. My son is so bad that my own family will not visit. One time my mom picked him up and brought him back the next hour cause he didnt listen....... Anyway i just wanted to let you know that your not the only one...Hopefully your child will grow out of it
well...i'm pregnante with a girl, so I could probaly use some advice too....this would be my first chid.
SOME MAY NOT AGREE-BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO EMBARESS THEM INTO BEHAVING-- WHETHER ITS STANDING IN THE CORNER OR A FIRM TAP -THEY HAVE TO KNOW ITS NOT GOING TO BE TOLERATED ANY LONGER-- MAY BE U COULD FORWARN YOUR GUESTS SO YOU DONT FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE
This is a duplicate question so you'll get a duplicate answer.
The boy needs to blow off steam through structured/unstructured exercise, play, sports etc. to use his great deal of energy. Then he will go down for a nap - so schedule your company visits for that time when he has gone down.
If he awakes and your company is still rhere, be calm and collected about the visitors, give him something to do that will allow him to interact in a limited way with your visitors, and reward his good behaviour. Try whenever possible to reward good behaviour as opposed to punishing bad behaviout, so that he gets positive reinforcement. He may be overactive due to the anxiety of being a foster child. He may think that he has to show off because he may be given to other foster parents. Love and patience will help, too.
He is testing you and he thinks you will not punish him like normal when there is company around. You should stop him from the behavior and respond to it just the way you would if there were no company.
when he next starts his rampage stop him and hold him still and firmly. Look him dead in the eyes and tell him that is not acceptable and then tell him to do what you want him to do and tell him he is going to be punished if he does not listen. If he doens not listen then punish. Repeat as needed.
You could also try what my mother did with my brother. She made him learn little poems and when company came she had him recite them for the company. He got his attention fix and he soon calmed down because mom always made him learn a new poem and he got tired of memorizing or looking dumb if he forgot. Im just thinking he was a bit older than two but maybe the principal will still apply. Good Luck
Sounds like he resents attention not spent on him. Or--he may have been abandoned, abused, or ignored when ';company'; came.
Keep him in the attention arena...make sure he knows you don't leave when visitors do, and give him a lot of attention before %26amp; after company. DO NOT make him the only center of attention...he will learn to be the center of the universe.
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